Written by Megan Youngblood
Don’t you love going home and getting asked, “Why aren’t you dating anyone?” When I was single I thought to myself, “I’ll never ask a guy out, so why are you asking me?” I was raised with the idea that it is the guy’s responsibility to make the moves. Boys have it easy. He finds a girl he is interested in and asks her out. What is so hard about that? Who cares if you get rejected? Pick yourself up and try again. A girl likes a guy, then what? She must balance getting the guy to notice her and not appearing desperate. It is difficult to get a guy to realize that you like him without making the first move. I challenge the guys to man up and make the move you have been dying to make. Do not let the fear of rejection keep you from asking out the girl of your dreams. In all honesty, most girls will give any guy at least one date.The man should always take the role as the “head” of the relationship. It is important for the guy to consider the girl’s wants and needs when making a choice so that she can trust him to make decisions that will benefit both of them. The girl needs to allow the guy to “wear the pants” in the relationship. Communication and the willingness to compromise for each other is a major part of a successful relationship.Once you get past the “scary” step of asking a girl out or the difficult process of trying to get a guy to ask you out, then comes the first date. Guys: Step No. 1 is for you to get out of your car, walk to my doorstep and knock. If you honk at me, the date is over.Step No. 2 is for you to open my car door for me. Yes, I can open it myself; however, opening my door is just one sign that the guy is a gentleman.Now the date begins. We are having a great time talking and laughing, but then the bill comes. This begins the big debate on who should pay. Step No. 3 is do not allow me to pay whenever I politely offer to pay for my half of the ticket. If a guy were to let me pay on a first date, chances are that there would not be a second date. It is not about the money; it is about finding a gentleman who knows how to treat a lady. Only after dating awhile is it acceptable for the girl to take the guy out every now and then.Step No. 4 is do not forget how to be a gentleman just because your relationship is now “Facebook official.” I expect the girl and the guy to treat each other with the respect that any person deserves in a relationship.Another important aspect of a successful relationship is the idea of servanthood. While the guy fills the role of the leader as well as a servant in the relationship, the girl fills the role of the encourager and servant. The girl should not be expected to do everything for the guy. The couple has to be able to serve each other with a willing heart. The girl should be supportive of her guy’s decisions and be eager to encourage him. What it comes down to is that the love you have for your significant other should make you want to serve them in any way you can.
