{"id":4441,"date":"2010-02-19T06:00:00","date_gmt":"2017-02-22T15:21:57","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"-0001-11-30T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"-0001-11-30T06:00:00","slug":"confessions-of-an-unhappy-cynic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thelink.harding.edu\/the-bison\/2010\/02\/19\/confessions-of-an-unhappy-cynic\/","title":{"rendered":"Confessions of an Unhappy Cynic"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Written by Jonathan Maxwell<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve always been a generally happy person. I grew up in a loving family in a middle class suburb of Detroit and, while employment was sometimes a problem for one of my parents, we never went without what we needed. I had a happy childhood full of cross-country vacations, Tigers baseball and an abundance of friends. I say this to preface something that&#8217;s been on my mind lately, and that is that even though I&#8217;ve been blessed with a good life thus far I now find myself unhappy with some aspects of my life and the biggest reason I can think of for this is cynicism.<\/p>\n<p>This was a topic in chapel just the other day, and this may seem like a broken record, but I couldn&#8217;t help but realize just how much the topic has been on my mind lately. I&#8217;ve noticed myself saying negative things that questioned the motives or background of others only to later find that these words or displays were genuine in their delivery. I have become well accustomed to the taste of my own foot. I&#8217;ve come to realize, though, that I can be cynical without opening my mouth, and I&#8217;m just as unhappy as I am when I do. So what&#8217;s going on? Why do I find myself unhappy with some things in life? It&#8217;s all about my attitude, and I know that I&#8217;m not alone.<\/p>\n<p>While talking to several other students this semester, I&#8217;ve found that many have shared my distrust of others and seem as equally jaded as myself, if not more so. We&#8217;re unsure of what we want to do once we graduate. We don&#8217;t know what to think of our political leaders. I&#8217;ve even heard the phrase, &#8220;I&#8217;m trying to be less cynical about chapel this year,&#8221; from several people, which suggests that some even harbor a certain amount of distrust toward Harding and its community. It would seem that we have reached a point in our culture where we would rather look on everything and everyone with suspicion or hostility rather than evaluate the real value they have to offer.<\/p>\n<p>Through these past four years I have met some of my closest and dearest friends and shared incredible experiences with them that I would never have known if it were not for this university. I have grown spiritually, whether through Bible classes, devotionals or while studying at HUG. In short, I have experienced life in ways that many in this world don&#8217;t, and when I think with this perspective I can&#8217;t help but realize how blessed I am. In this light I see that my cynicism is unhealthy and it blinds me to the blessings that daily surround me.<\/p>\n<p>While Bruce McLarty delivered an excellent message on this topic last week, I have to be honest and say that the man who really got me to think about the effect cynicism has had on my life was a man who has made a career out of reaching the college-age demographic through the television set, Conan O&#8217;Brien. In the midst of losing his dream job through what many consider a raw deal, he left his post with grace and dignity, offering words of wisdom that have helped him through his career, probably now more than ever. &#8220;All I ask of you, especially young people &#8230; is one thing. Please don&#8217;t be cynical.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>In closing, I offer these thoughts for you to take or leave on your own volition. I can only change my point of view and in the end we are held accountable for ourselves. I may not always like my circumstances, but I can still choose to live my life trusting that I have a just and loving God who sees far more than I do. That God wants me to live a life of sacrifice and love and the apostle Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 13 that, &#8220;Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.&#8221; Given the choice between cynicism and love, I choose love.<\/p>\n<div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Written by Jonathan Maxwell I&#8217;ve always been a generally happy person. 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