{"id":12523,"date":"2019-02-13T12:51:04","date_gmt":"2019-02-13T18:51:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thelink.harding.edu\/the-bison\/?p=12523"},"modified":"2019-02-21T22:56:25","modified_gmt":"2019-02-22T04:56:25","slug":"listen-dont-look-away","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thelink.harding.edu\/the-bison\/2019\/02\/13\/listen-dont-look-away\/","title":{"rendered":"Listen. | Don’t Look Away"},"content":{"rendered":"

The past two editions of \u201cListen\u201d<\/span> covered political subjects that I find vastly important to my own understanding of how the world works. \u00a0But I will not be covering politics today. Today, I am writing about mental health. <\/span><\/p>\n

I had a bad week \u2014 a really bad week \u2014 and it is important to me that I tell other people about those times that are mine because I know every person has those times that are theirs. <\/span><\/p>\n

I know that it\u2019s hard to talk about mental health. It\u2019s hard to be weak; it\u2019s hard to be vulnerable. It is evolutionarily dangerous. Reaching out isn\u2019t just a bad option because it\u2019s embarrassing, but because it often doesn\u2019t feel safe. Even though I am crumbling on the inside, the catastrophe is contained to me; I keep my windows clean. The problem, then, is that sometimes all of the water wells up from the inside, and it is much more difficult to control a flood than a gentle stream. <\/span><\/p>\n

When I first realized that I was suffering from poor mental health and that some of my symptoms were more of a pattern than scattered storms, I was afraid. I was afraid that if I spoke out, my loved ones would see and blame themselves \u2014 or that people would see me differently or that maybe if I spoke of it the pain would become real. I was always told not to speak things into existence, and I still tremble inside and wonder if I did. What I did realize, with time, was that I should not be living with any fear at all. <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s hard for me to talk about my mental health because I\u2019m not sure what\u2019s too much to say. I don\u2019t want to overshare, but I do want to be honest enough to help. In this social climate, we dance to the anxious tune of \u201cwhat is too much, what is too little?\u201d and we don\u2019t slow down. We waltz with vague tones meant to placate, and that breeds an air of disconnection. Suddenly, it isn\u2019t just unfashionable to be honest about our vulnerabilities, it is impolite. <\/span><\/p>\n

At the 2019 Grammy Awards, Lady Gaga won an award for her song \u201cShallow\u201d<\/span>, <\/span><\/i>from the film \u201cA Star is Born.\u201d In the speech, Gaga addressed mental health. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u201c…If you see somebody that\u2019s hurting don\u2019t look away,\u201d Gaga said. \u201cAnd if you\u2019re hurting, even though it might be hard, try to find that bravery within yourself to dive deep and go tell somebody and take them up in your head with you.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n

Sometimes strength looks like coming forward. Other times, it looks like reaching out. Humans are most powerful when we are our truest selves. The pain we feel refines us. What we do when we encounter pain defines us. <\/span><\/p>\n

Living with mental health issues feels like I\u2019m being forced to chase storms. It approaches like a landslide with no end, and then I bottom out and am afraid I won\u2019t make it up again. It\u2019s indulgent to think that my experiences are unique to me. I know that everyone else lies awake some nights. Not everyone suffers from mental health disorders, but we all have pain. And what can result from unity in the face of sorrow is so much more beautiful than solitary efforts to comfort oneself. <\/span><\/p>\n

And I fail \u2014 I really do \u2014 at taking care of myself, and at reaching out to others. But it is braver to recognize your pain than to ignore or minimize it. It is courageous to recognize the depth of people: their joys, idiosyncrasies and liabilities. We are not all as indestructible as we seem. We are much better armored together. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, don\u2019t look away. I know that if I lived in a world where I felt that my honesty wouldn\u2019t inhibit my relationships, I would\u2019ve gotten help sooner. Furthermore, I know that I live in a world full of people who want to be honest. We bleed if we aren\u2019t. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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